Friday, March 19, 2010

"Temptation in the garden of apples"-photoshoot for my big sis

Last night we watched a French film called 'Someone I loved'. It was raw, emotional and real. It was about cheating hearts. So much interpretation one can derive from it, devastatingly beautiful yet so sad at the same time.

One can never be assured from the protection of being with someone who will never cheat. And I can see how devastating it can be if you are in a family situation with kids and such an awful thing happens to you. Makes one fearful of whether it is a good idea to commit your heart fully to someone, for fear of it getting broken again or that feeling of suffocating entrapment. I once loved someone with equal passion and craziness as the couple in the movie. It was short lived but it made my heart soar and I really did reach those good moments when thought to myself, have I actually found the one? It's a feeling you get at the honeymoon stage beginning. A feeling equivalent to the start of any romantic relationships, or the illicit nature of a love affair, where forbidden love is always time starved and precious, hence intensified and more treasured. Men always want what they can't get, right? So for those who constantly chase for that head over heels sensation, they would continue to want to have flings or affair relationships. It's equivalent to a drug addiction and it can be devastating for all those unsuspecting and involved.

I guess though, after all the hurt and heartache from consequence of infidelity, the depression can pass and people eventually move on. Saying yes to temptation is equivalent to saying that you are willing to let go of all that you have, your partner, your family, and be selfishly indulging in those momentary desires which can escalate into something so much more consuming and devastating. I myself believe I can walk away from such temptations, but perhaps I will listen to D's advice, if faced with temptation, run!

I read an insightful article and I love the following quote:

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.
But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's
the natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
The key to succeeding in love is not finding the right person; its learning to love the person you found.
No one falls in love by choice, it is by chance.
No one stays in love by chance, it is by work.
And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by choice.

The reality is that any real relationship past its honeymoon stage reaches a new level. One must embrace the changes, and appreciate that there may be more stability than spontaneity, more comfort than passion, more friendship and understanding than lust.

Looking back at this entry I have a second thought. Like everything in life, there is a risk. If you let your heart soar by taking a chance at love again, you risk the chance of crashing down just as hard.

But, I'm willing to take that risk.

xiao ying @ 12:32 PM.